When the boys were growing up (they are currently 20 and 21), Michael and I were careful about what they watched and listened to. We kept them from all the Star Wars movies until they were older, as well as programs with "bathroom humor" aimed at young children. They watched what we called "gentle programs"--not feminine as such, but quiet, gentle and kind: Fred Rogers was their favorite. They also loved Little Bear, Franklin, and Richard Scarry. As they grew older, we allowed more of the action and adventure programming. They love Star Wars now, and I think they are actually enjoying it more now than they would have at age 5 and 6.
They have both commented on these choices--I am so grateful that they can see what we were trying to do, and they seem to be grateful. I don't know why I am making this post--if there are any young moms out there reading, remember that you are not obscuring gender lines by teaching your boys to be gentle and kind. They will pick up SO MUCH from what they see--the images on television today are harsh, sexual and often quite vulgar. Those qualities don't make a man more masculine or a girl more feminine.
Our sweet boys are not perfect, but they have grown into such kind and loving young gentlemen, well-mannered and thoughtful. Beware the programming, as we did, that contains the smart-mouthed and disrespectful tween or teen. Parents are ridiculed and undermined by the more intelligent and savvy child. These programs have had a terrible impact on our young people.
Don't worry about what people will say about you--YOU are raising your children--those who criticize you are NOT. Take advice when YOU feel it is sound, but don't make decisions about what your children read, watch and listen to because of external pressure.